My wife and I are completing our last wills and testaments. We have named 3 guardians for our children in case we pass away (the guardians are in descending order, so the first has priority etc.). We also want to state in our wills our preference that some of our relatives should not be considered as guardians (they were horrible parents themselves and have criminal history).

I have read here (Is it possible to exclude individuals as guardians?) that it is not possible to completely exclude someone from being a guardian but that our wishes can be stated. My questions are:

a) should we include such wishes in the main document of our wills or in a separate letter to the court (obviously, we would share this letter with all of our guardians so that the letter can be brought forth if needed)?

b) which language could we use to state our wishes? Do you have any template paragraph or document? Also, should we document why we believe the above-mentioned relatives are incapable of taking care of our children or just state that we believe they are? Thanks.

Edit: Here are the answers I got from a lawyer.

One can draft a confidential exclusion letter to state wishes regarding excluding certain people from being guardians. There you can explain in detail why you think somebody is unfit to be a guardian. Execute this document as you do for your will and tell your family that it exists so that they can access it if you die (or give them a copy). The advantage of a stand-alone document is that it is not public, differently from the will.

My wife and I are completing our last wills and testaments. We have named 3 guardians for our children in case we pass away (the guardians are in descending order, so the first has priority etc.). We also want to state in our wills our preference that some of our relatives should not be considered as guardians (they were horrible parents themselves and have criminal history).

I have read here (Is it possible to exclude individuals as guardians?) that it is not possible to completely exclude someone from being a guardian but that our wishes can be stated. My questions are:

a) should we include such wishes in the main document of our wills or in a separate letter to the court (obviously, we would share this letter with all of our guardians so that the letter can be brought forth if needed)?

b) which language could we use to state our wishes? Do you have any template paragraph or document? Also, should we document why we believe the above-mentioned relatives are incapable of taking care of our children or just state that we believe they are? Thanks.

My wife and I are completing our last wills and testaments. We have named 3 guardians for our children in case we pass away (the guardians are in descending order, so the first has priority etc.). We also want to state in our wills our preference that some of our relatives should not be considered as guardians (they were horrible parents themselves and have criminal history).

I have read here (Is it possible to exclude individuals as guardians?) that it is not possible to completely exclude someone from being a guardian but that our wishes can be stated. My questions are:

a) should we include such wishes in the main document of our wills or in a separate letter to the court (obviously, we would share this letter with all of our guardians so that the letter can be brought forth if needed)?

b) which language could we use to state our wishes? Do you have any template paragraph or document? Also, should we document why we believe the above-mentioned relatives are incapable of taking care of our children or just state that we believe they are? Thanks.

My wife and I are completing our last wills and testaments. We have named 3 guardians for our children in case we pass away (the guardians are in descending order, so the first has priority etc.). We also want to state in our wills our preference that some of our relatives should not be considered as guardians (they were horrible parents themselves and have criminal history).

I have read here (Is it possible to exclude individuals as guardians?) that it is not possible to completely exclude someone from being a guardian but that our wishes can be stated. My questions are:

a) should we include such wishes in the main document of our wills or in a separate letter to the court (obviously, we would share this letter with all of our guardians so that the letter can be brought forth if needed)?

b) which language could we use to state our wishes? Do you have any template paragraph or document? Also, should we document why we believe the above-mentioned relatives are incapable of taking care of our children or just state that we believe they are? Thanks.

Edit: Here are the answers I got from a lawyer.

One can draft a confidential exclusion letter to state wishes regarding excluding certain people from being guardians. There you can explain in detail why you think somebody is unfit to be a guardian. Execute this document as you do for your will and tell your family that it exists so that they can access it if you die (or give them a copy). The advantage of a stand-alone document is that it is not public, differently from the will.