My wife and I live in Pennsylvania and are looking to adopt. A friend informed of us a girl who lives in Oklahoma who is pregnant and looking for an adoptive family for when the child is born. The father is in Illinois and it is an unknown factor whether he will sign his parental rights away (although the reason might be as much spite as anything else). In doing some internet research, it's clear there's some major differences in how they handle the laws. For example, Oklahoma states, regarding a father's rights that the father "may sign Extra Judicial Consent with 15 days to revoke; can be served with “Adoption Plan”, with 30 days to turn it in to Paternity Registry, or rights will be terminated" while Illinois's laws state that sent can be given "before the child is born, but the consent can be revoked until 72 hours after the child is born. Once the child is born, birth fathers must wait a minimum of 72 hours." And, of course, Pennsylvania has yet another law. The child will be born in Oklahoma. Would the rules for Oklahoma be followed? Those of Illinois? Some mixture thereof involving least or most restrictive?
Obviously, if we go through with this, we'll need to engage an adoption attorney who can unravel some of the legal complications, but I'm looking for a ballpark on which states' laws apply.