I am expecting to receive a considerable inheritance for my mother that recently passed, I think in the range of ($10k-???) It could be a lot but I have no idea my sister is the executor of the will and she has not told me anything but wait. The money is suppose to be split into 3 equal shares. It’s has been over 4 months and still no update. I knew I would have to wait but I assumed I would at least know something by now. I have requested an update on multiple occasions but she is stonewalling me. We don’t get along especially after I found out my sister didn’t honor my moms wish to be bairred in the plot that my mom picked out and purchased, instead having her cremated which allowed my sister to sell the plot. Mom mother had already sold her house and I think the money was in a brokerage account that they were drawing from to pay her bills. She was living in assisted living so we owe some money to Medicaid $60k but the rest is ours to split. I’m not sure if probate is involved or not.
One of the stipulation of my moms will is that we cannot fight over the money or we are out of the will. Does that give my sister carte blache to do as she pleases? I don’t know what I can do or say without it being considered arguing and forfeit my share of the money. This doesn’t seem right but I don’t know. Any advice would be appreciated.
Jurisdiction: My mother lived in United States specifically California for all except the last 3 years of her life she was in Oregon, which is where she passed. My sister is in Oregon but I live out of state if that matters.