When I met my now ex-boyfriend, we were both already over 18. I took digital nude pictures of myself and transferred them electronically to him, i. e. I was sexting him. He didn't specifically ask for them, I just wanted to pleasure him. There wasn't much accompanying text to the nudes.

Now, after the break-up, I thought about these photos. I wonder who owns them now and if I could make him delete them. But I'm not planning to take any legal steps, I'm just curious. I'm also not aware of him posting them anywhere and I do not suspect him to, so this is not about revenge porn.

I found an article on Vice.com, but it is a bit unclear:

According to Olivarius, you may have a case if a former partner refuses to delete your nudes after you’ve asked them to, but proving guilt in court in this situation will be extremely difficult.

What is the legal status of nude pictures sent to a now ex-partner after a break-up?

I saw this earlier question but it doesn't contain an answer to my question as the cases discussed are quite different.

  • What State are you in? Does your ex-live in that state as well currently and at the time you would have sent the pictures?
    – hszmv
    Jul 15, 2019 at 20:26
  • @hszmv Both in New York. I added the tag. Jul 15, 2019 at 20:38
  • Then the best advice will be to look into New York's revenge porn laws. Given that NYC is a major media center and these laws tend to be a tad on the progressive side of the spectrum, I can't imagine one doesn't already exist. You may have to rely on case law too. I'm not sure there is a Federal Law in play, which is both a pro and con.
    – hszmv
    Jul 15, 2019 at 20:43
  • @hszmv Thank you! I saw that they passed a new bill to better protect victims. I do not expect him to share the pictures though. Jul 15, 2019 at 20:54
  • What is the legal status of any other personal information sent to a now ex-partner after a break-up? Are nude pictures any different? Based on what I read here, no. Nov 12, 2020 at 5:54

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I assume these are digital photos that were electronically transferred (not prints physically delivered). If they were prints physically delivered, he owns those prints, since you used to own them but you unconditionally transferred ownership to him by giving them. No backsies under the law.

The photos are protected by copyright law, which means that the person who took the pictures has the exclusive right to make copies, disseminate them, and authorize making copies. In order for anyone to make a copy, they need permission – a license – from you. In the world of pre-planned business deals, the copyright holder writes up a document granting B some right to use the protected material, which typically means "you can install it on your various devices but may not give copies to others". In this case, however, you didn't create an explicit written license. So if this ends up in court, the question is what implicit license you granted. The courts will not decide that you granted him the license to unrestrictedly sell or give away copies of the protected material. The most likely outcome would be that he can only keep his copy, i.e. he will not be forced to erase the copy that you sent him. What the courts would do is try to discern what license you most likely intended to grant to him. There is a provision in copyright law that allows a licensee to make backup copies of a computer program (17 USC 117), but a digital photo is not a computer program. So the lifespan of the copy that you sent would be the lifespan of the phone (I assume) that you sent it to.

Since actually using a digital photo technically requires making a copy (from disk storage to computational memory), there is a legal direction (dead-end) that you could go where the photo could exist on the phone, but never be opened again. Again, the courts would have to discern what license you probably intended w.r.t. ever opening the photo – obviously you intended that the file could be opened / viewed any number of times.

You could argue that the license which you granted was conditional, i.e. "you can have and use these pictures as long as we are a thing", but establishing that this was part of the license would be tricky. Free digital content often has some "as long as" condition attached to it, i.e. "you can use this program as long as you are affiliated with University of Whatever". I don't consider a conditional license to be a ridiculous interpretation, on the other hand the particular court (judge) might decide that people who sext should be forced to live with the unpleasant consequences of their decisions. If we exclude such a line of thinking, I don't see a compelling counter-argument that your ex-partner inequitably loses a right by construing the license as conditional. I don't know if there is any case law that addresses this: at any rate, copyright law would severely limit what he could do with the pictures (the tort "invasion of privacy" also limits dissemination).

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    A digital photo is software, because it's not hardware. Software doesn't have to be executable. Jul 14, 2019 at 18:11
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    Lesson for everyone: Don't send nude pictures to your boyfriend or girlfriend. But absolutely do NOT allow your boyfriend or girlfriend to take nude pictures of you because then copyright law doesn't protect you.
    – gnasher729
    Jul 14, 2019 at 18:19
  • About the backup: If you send a photo to my iPhone, a backup will happen automatically and would be quite difficult to avoid (if I continue backing up my own photos).
    – gnasher729
    Jul 14, 2019 at 20:28
  • What about their partnership status? Doesn't it make the IP/copyright relationship property to be split equal?
    – Greendrake
    Jul 14, 2019 at 21:30
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    @gnasher729 Did you read the link in the comment? Open it and read it "U.S. Supreme Court Holds That Copyrights Must Be Registered before Plaintiffs Can File Infringement Suits" -- The U.S. Supreme Court held today that bringing a suit for copyright infringement requires that the infringed work actually be registered with the U.S. Copyright Office, and that a mere application for registration will not suffice. The ruling makes it even more imperative that copyright holders register their works promptly if they wish to enforce their rights
    – mark b
    Jul 16, 2019 at 18:41

The copies of the photo that you gave to him continue to be his. He is allowed to keep them, and there is probably no way that you could legally compel him to delete or destroy them. Unless the pictures can be classified as "hardcore pornography," they are within the ambit of First Amendment protection. I don't see -- and the article doesn't explain -- how Olivarius thinks you might overcome that fact.

The photos are, however, protected by copyright. You are the copyright holder and have a great deal of power to restrict the ex-boyfriend's authority to make copies of the pictures. It would generally be illegal, then, for him to forward the pictures on to others, turn the pictures into posters to hang on his walls, etc. And, as you noted, there are also revenge-porn statutes that further limit his ability to disseminate the pictures.

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