In March 2018, the financial advisor I worked with, trapped me in my cubicle and asked me if a lump in his groin area made his pants fit tighter. While pressing his pants down to show me the lump, he said “I’m not pointing to my “thing”, my “thing” is on the other side.” This made me extremely uncomfortable. I reported this to my immediate supervisor, my branch manager and my senior operations leader. The advisor was given discipline however I was still forced to work with him which made me feel like my employer did not validate the position I was put in.
On July 15, 2019, I changed job offices and began working with a new advisor. On the first day I started, he showed me pictures of people who he would like to become his clients and he wanted me to actively communicate and socialize with them as well. The pictures were of a fake breasted woman being groped by her husband and of the woman’s license plate which read “Muff Diver.” The advisor proceeded to tell me that the couple in the picture were swingers but that he doesn’t participate in that lifestyle. This was said in front of my immediate supervisor who said nothing.
My red flags went up immediately. All the same feelings of disgust, crossing boundaries, and anxiety came flooding back at me just the same way as the incident with the first advisor.
I drove to work for a week before my mind and body just refused. My anxiety wouldn’t allow me to get in my car. I was fearful to drive because I was overcome with panic.
I am currently on FMLA. The thought of returning to the same job, at the same office, with the same advisor, has left me stricken with panic attacks, worry, no appetite, not sleeping.