I went to see a therapist for help with my mental health and relationship issues, and after a series of events she spread open her legs in a sexually suggestive manner while telling me I was in a compromising situation (or maybe used the word position, can't remember). At first I thought "maybe I'm misinterpreting things" but then she did that again - spreading open her legs while telling me I was in a compromising position/situation. There was no reason to use the word "compromising" in the context either. I simply described how I was ignored and bullied. Previously, she also made fun of my anxiety as "you still have anxiety about something that concluded x months ago" and said "I can't answer multiple emails [paraphrased]" when I only emailed twice. One of the things I talked with her about was how I would receive complaints I emailed alot, when I didn't (just so you know the reason for the comment).
I made a complaint about this, but the comments I received indicate that they are saying that that does not constitute sexual harassment despite the fact that I wrote in the complaint document that the manner in which she opened her legs was sexually suggestive (i.e., not adjusting) and still they didn't investigate, didn't ask me further questions, didn't ask me for evidence (which I have), didn't ask me anything...
Am I misinterpreting things :( ?
Maybe she just opened her legs like that for adjustment reasons, but if I describe them in a manner as "sexually suggestive" would that not be a reasonable cause for concern to investigate? I'm feeling defeated because apparently this is not sexual harassment and I'm all over the place...if you were there sitting next to me, and that occurred to you...would you not feel sexually harassed?
I'm not asking whether or not my therapist did sexually harass me (because there may be no evidence to support this claim) I am asking whether what I described does constitute sexual harassment, assuming it is true
My university describes sexual harassment as:
"Sexual harassment occurs where there is an unwelcome sexual advance, or other unwelcome sexual behaviour, towards another person, in circumstances where it can reasonably be expected that the person will feel intimidated, humiliated or offended by the behaviour. The person’s age, religious beliefs, race or ethnic origin might be relevant in considering their likely reaction to the behaviour. The unwelcome behaviour might involve a request for sexual contact, but there are other types of conduct which can amount to harassment."
If what I described is sexual harassment and my university did not take me seriously, then that is a different kind of problem on my hands, than had I actually been sexually harassed...
My question is, does what I wrote constitute sexual harassment or not? Not whether or not I was sexually harased, not whether or not is sexual harassment allowed...it is simple whether or not I was sexually harassed.
I ask this because when I pointed this out to my University the person investigating my complaint beforehand who ignored what I would describe as sexual harassment, sent me a very upsettingly worded email, to say the least.