To explain briefly - we moved to a new home a little over 3 years ago - our next door neighbors are government auditors. He is an auditor for the IRS, and she does something internal. On our first visit over to their house he made several jokes around the ideas of institutional abuses of power. We have never become friends, but have maintained a neighborly congeniality over the years. Over that time our main source of interaction has been them consistently and repeatedly asking my family and I for many favors. Ranging from the neighborly and entirely reasonable "could you bring in our trashcans", to asking for goods and services that my wife and I provide professionally. The most troubling in my eyes is that her work, which requires security clearance, and her immigration status, require her to have a yearly background check - since the year after we moved in, she has pressured my wife to be her listed social reference for that, and for the last several years, we've complied.
Given their status as auditors, we feel extremely pressured to comply with all of their requests, and are unsure of how to decline these regular and excessive requests.
My main question is - isn't there some sort of regulation or statute that should prevent them engaging in such behavior? Even when I was a nobody $15/hr shift area supervisor for a major shipping company back in the day, my training included a not insignificant portion on avoiding such impropriety.
My follow up question is - if there is something legally inappropriate in what they are doing - how and where can I go about reporting it?
I have tried several internet searches, but thus far anything containing the terms "Report", "IRS", "Agent" and/or "Auditor" tend to be awash in what google deems more relevant information. I have searched, and looked a bit on the IRS website, as well as a few other government sites, but again most of my searches turn up what to do in the case that I am being audited. Thankfully we are not, but that is very much the nature of my concern.
To be clear - this is not a social question. I am not worried about maintaining a social relationship - I feel my family is being implicitly threatened and outrightly taken advantage of. I need to know if I have any legal recourse to stop it.