This is the original question of which was later broken up into two parts. See the other question here.
Typically, I find that when speaking with an attorney, the attorney's #1 priority is protecting you which could set an intimidating tone with the other party and change how relationship proceeds from there. So speaking with an attorney or bringing them into the picture is always a big step as the attorney also has to do their best to keep you in mind which without oversight and good judgement on your part could lead to uncomfortable interactions with the other party.
Sometimes its not only about protecting you, its also about finding a win-win while still maintaining your rights, educating you how the law applies to your case, what actions you as an informed individual can take and how to negotiate the different enumerable interactions with the other party.
So let's say someone is interested in hiring an attorney but hasn't understood exactly how to interact with attorneys yet.
- How do you explain your case to the attorney? What facts do you bring up? What documents do you provide, etc.?
- How do you set the tone with your attorney? How to get the attorney to understand so that you are represented satisfactorily?
(Note that in case of criminal cases, clearly win-win is a strange concept so I'm not considering criminal case types in my question, but specifically dealing with other party's in which the end goal is to find a win-win while still being represented to your satisfaction.)